Have you ever found yourself thinking that life is hard or that nothing in life comes easy. Perhaps you’ve had feelings of not being good enough, or smart enough or attractive enough. Perhaps you’ve set some goals, career goals, weight loss goals, relationship goals, but had doubts about being able to achieve them and therefore, never pursued them successfully.
These thoughts and outcomes often develop due to our core beliefs.
Core beliefs are one of the major unconscious programs that control our life. Day to day, our unconscious mind is constantly looking for evidence to support our beliefs and this can either work for us or against us. Our unconscious mind is an incredibly powerful device, however, many people are unsure on how to actually control it.
A majority of our core beliefs are formed before the age of 7. The beliefs that we form before the age of 7 tend to have the most control over our life as they are deeply unconscious.
These core beliefs are formed as we evaluate situations, events and experiences.
The interesting thing about this is as a child we lack the emotional intelligence to process situations and events for what they are, even as adults we can misunderstand events and interactions.
However, in those early years, which are also known as the “imprint years” as we make evaluations on the situations and events occurring around us, we can form some beliefs that will impact us for the rest of our life.
Negative core beliefs are one of the major causes of “blocks” in life, they can cause us to attract the same situations or people over and over again no matter how hard we try to avoid it. Core beliefs can cause us to feel stuck, they can prevent us from achieving our goals and they can create deep dissatisfaction in all areas of life.
Regardless of whether or not your childhood was pleasant or traumatic, we all form beliefs in our imprint years that have the potential to impact our life in a negative way, and I’ll give you an example.
Let’s say you’re caring for a child who is 5 years old, and that child wants an ice-cream. Now as the caregiver, you say no. and perhaps you say no for a number of reasons, perhaps you don’t want the child to spoil their appetite for dinner, perhaps its almost bedtime and you don’t want to hype them up on sugar, perhaps you simply don’t have any ice cream in the freezer.. whatever the reason, I’m sure that from your point of view it is perfectly logical. But as a 5 year old, hearing the answer NO could cause the child to form the belief that they never get what they want, or people are mean, or even a belief like nobody loves me.. as adults we know this is not the case but as a very impressionable 5 year old with minimal emotional intelligence, we can easily see how these beliefs can form.
If any one of these beliefs become core beliefs they will impact that Childs life until an event or intervention occurs to change it and here’s how.
Lets say that 5 year old child developed the core belief that I never get what I want after being denied an ice cream. The unconscious mind of the child will constantly search for evidence in the future to support this belief. As the child starts school they may struggle to make friends with other children that they want to make friends with, as they move into high school they may not get chosen for the sporting team they want to join, in adult hood they may not get the dream job that they want, the partner that they want, the house or the car or the pet that they want all because the unconscious mind is busy supporting the belief “I never get what I want”
The scary thing is, these unconscious core beliefs do control our life, and they are completely out of our awareness because they are unconscious. And many people, if they do find themselves consciously thinking “I never get what I want” they may be unaware that this is a core belief and that it is something that they can change.
In my practice I see how core beliefs control some peoples ability to achieve and maintain a healthy weight. I hear things like “I always get stuck at 80kgs” and guess what happens.. they do, even when there is no physiological reason for the body to do so. I hear things like, “I can’t lose weight” and sadly the unconscious mind of the person with this belief will help them to find evidence to support this. People who hold negative core beliefs about weight loss tend to struggle to make progress however, people who are willing to change their core beliefs and release unhelpful core beliefs find it easy to get what they want.
The process I use to assist people to change their core beliefs is easy, gentle and rapid. In fact, you can change several core beliefs in less than an hour. The process I like to use is called Time Line Therapy® which was created by Dr Tad James. I use this technique with clients during one on one programs and I also during the 7 Day NLP Intensive. The 7 Day Intensive provides you with the opportunity to experience the technique and also learn how to use this technique with others.
Changing negative core beliefs will have a profound positive effect on every aspect of your life in ways that you couldn’t imagine until experiencing it.
For me personally learning NLP and the Time Line Therapy® Limiting Belief process was life changing. It gave me a clear understanding on how my unconscious mind works and within a very short period of time I broke free from patterns in my life that were making me miserable. For years I struggled in business and couldn’t support myself financially. Within a year of learning NLP and Time Line Therapy® I left my part time job and was thriving as a business owner. For the first time in my life I was setting income goals and achieving them well within my intense time frame. I broke free from attracting relationships that were toxic, to say the least, and my self confidence and self assurance grew strong. I felt independent, resilient and for the first time in my life, empowered.
If you would like some assistance to uncover and change core beliefs that hold you back, reach out and contact me. You can CLICK HERE to schedule a free chat. You can also learn more about the 7 Day NLP Intensive HERE